In this episode Kate Northrup and I discuss…

• What it really means to do less
• What Kate’s inner critic has to say about doing less
• Kate’s Do Less rules
• What the “old rules” were
• How Kate and I became interested in the menstrual cycle
• Using the menstrual cycle as a way to practice self-love
• Limiting beliefs around things being “easy”
• How to navigate working less as an employee
• How to navigate working less as a leader of a team
• Kate’s favorite experiments from her book “Do Less”

Meet Kate Northrup:

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. They are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. Kate has a membership of over 1,000 entrepreneurs called Origin® Collective that’s about infusing more feminine energy into your business and reclaiming your time, and she has also helped over 5,000 students heal their relationship with money with her signature Money Love Course. Her first book, Money: A Love Story, has been published in 5 languages, and her second book, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms, is now available wherever books are sold. Kate’s work has been featured by The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, Wanderlust, The Huffington Post, and more. Kate lives with her husband and business partner, Mike, and their daughters in a cozy town in Maine.

Website | Instagram | Podcast | Book: Do Less

Links:

• The Female Brain
• Woman Code
• Wild Power
• Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
• Lisa Lister
• Emergent Strategy by Adrienne Maree Brown
• Drop the Ball

Journal Prompts:

• When do you feel most like yourself?
• What could doing less look like for you?
• How can you be ruthless about protecting your time and energy?
• What is causing stress in your life and how might you get rid of those things?
• Where in your life can you do less?
• What is one thing you could take out of your life to simplify it?

Quotes:

• Do less of things that drain you – Kate
• My value is in who I am not what I do – Kate
• It felt like a return to myself and my body – Kate
• I was desperate for something to depend on and I could depend on my body and my cycle. – Kate
• Imagine if all women could feel held by their menstrual cycle instead of being at the effect of it. It would be amazing. The whole world would change. – Joanna
• I can’t think of anything more practical to love yourself than to actually pay attention to your cycle than to treat your body as it would like to be treated at different times of the month. – Kate
• We are all cyclical beings. – Kate
• Explore your own relationship to work and time. – Kate
• Tune into your energy and notice where there is friction. – Kate
• Where there’s friction we need change. – Kate
• Make small changes over time – Kate
• Changing your relationship with doing is a lifelong relationship – Kate

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A short, sweet story about a little boy in the pizza shop who delighted me while following his sparkle.

In this episode I talk about…

• Following your sparkle
• Going with your impulses
• Learning the rules and then choosing which ones to break

Journal Prompts:

• Where can you be a little bit out of your mind
• How can you intentionally get out of your mind
• What would it look like if you followed your impulse
• What level of joy or freedom would you experience if you followed your impulse

Quotes:

• When you’re little your mind has not been trained yet to know certain unwritten rules
• Follow your sparkle
• Charge toward the things that delight you
• As a grownup you get to choose what rules you follow
• Go with your impulses
• Once you know the rules you can break the rules

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Each month we do a Q+A style episode called a Heart to Heart. This month is a Heart to Heart on sex. In this episode, we talk about staying celibate when dating, creating space for open and honest conversations about sex and having sex more often with your partner.

Questions:

• How have others broached the conversation about potentially staying celibate for an undetermined time in a romantic relationship?
• I feel very inexperienced when it comes to sex. How can you have an open and honest conversation when you are really starting to date?
• How can I get my partner to have more sex with me?

Links:

• Mating in Captivity (Book)

Journal Prompts:

• If you’re wanting to stay celibate – ask yourself why
• What do you like and not like (in bed)?
• How can having little experience in bed be a good thing for you?
• Who do you want to be sexually?
• How can you see sex as an adventure and not as a place where you’re lacking
• Is your sex life another place you feel you have to please and perform?
• How can you allow your sexual relationship to be completely should-less?
• Are you not having sex (physically) or are you just feeling like you’re not having sex?
• What do you need to feel to be open and available for sex?

Quotes:

• Start the conversation with yourself first
• You don’t always have to be DTF
• Be open and honest with your needs
• Believe you can attract a partner who will respect your boundaries, requests and desires
• Inexperienced doesn’t have to be bad – it’s like having a blank slate
• Honor where you and your partner are in each other’s sexual journey
• There are several factors that can stifle sex drive
• Be a safe place for your partner to show up in bed as they are
• Your sex drive can be different based on your cycle
• Focusing on what you’re not having is only going to reinforce it
• You can have vanity metrics in your sex life
• Be a person your partner wants to have sex with

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In this episode of Love Always, Jo, I’m talking about how to avoid burnout in the pursuit of having it all. I’ll be sharing the 6 things you can do to avoid burnout by decreasing your output or increasing your input. Listen to this episode to hear more about avoiding burnout.

Ready to avoid burnout and start shining more in your life? The doors to Sparkle Collective are open now until midnight on Friday, May 10. Sign up at https://joanna-platt.com/sparkle.

In this episode, you’ll hear…

• What does it mean to have it all
• Why do you want to avoid burnout
• What is burnout
• How to prevent burnout
• Why you’re getting burned out in the first place
• What to do next
• What is Sparkle Collective

Links:

• Join Sparkle Collective
• Calm Your Inner Critic Class

Journal Prompts:

• Why do you want to avoid burnout
• What are you going to increase or decrease in your life to avoid burnout
• What are you actually responsible for in your life

Quotes:

• You can’t outrun your inner critic by overloading your life
• It’s okay if your “why” is you
• Take appropriate responsibility and let go of everything else
• You don’t have to be numb with busyness
• Your inner child can point you to your essence
• Work and rest are not opposites, they fuel each other
• Avoiding burnout isn’t about fixing your schedule
• If avoiding burnout was easy you’d be doing it already
• You shine when you set priorities and fuel your soul
• Avoiding burnout is deep, soul work

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In this short and sweet bonus episode of Love Always, Jo, I’m sharing two things you will NOT hear me say in my workshop How To Avoid Burnout in Your Pursuit of Having It All.

Register for the free, live workshop at joanna-platt.com/burnout. Can’t wait to help get you off the cycle of burnout so you can show up and shine in every aspect of your life.

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In this episode I talk about…

• What I mean when I say “shine”
• Misconceptions around what it means to shine
• Why I advocate for shining in your own way

Journal Prompts:

• Who are the people in your life who see your light?
• What does shining mean to you?

Quotes:

• You shine when you stand confidently in the truth of who you are
• You shine when you stand confidently in your value and in the gifts you bring to the world
• Shiny doesn’t mean you have to be loud or extroverted
• Shiny does not mean happy all the time
• You don’t have to be perky to shine
• You can’t shine if you’re on the edge of burnout all the time
• Become an observer of what makes you shine
• Shining is best when it’s in 360
• You shine brighter and stronger if you can integrate all parts of you
• You cannot force yourself to shine
• Shining is not about forcing or shoulding yourself

Announcements:

You can’t shine if you’re on the edge of burnout. Learn my tried and true ways to keep burnout at bay in my free, virtual workshop “How to Avoid Burnout in Your Pursuit of Having It All” on May 6 and 7. Sign up for the class at joanna-platt.com/burnout. Can’t make it live? Don’t worry there will be a replay sent, so make sure to register!

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Friendship as an adult is a whole different ball game. In this Q+A style episode, we’re talking about friendship. Questions include…

• What tips do you have about friends who have lots of toxic/negative/judgy energy?
• How has the fear of being “too much” shown up for you when it comes to friendship? And how are you moving past it? @clarityonfire
• How do you deal with growing apart from friends? @astride86

I also talk about…

• how I want to do friendship
• the desire to reach out to a friend but not because of the feeling you’d be bothering them
• my rules for the phone

Links:

• Episode 17 – Boundaries and Needs with Dr. Lauren Appio
• Episode 75 – The Frequency of Love and Wrong
• Episode 11 – Finding Your Zen-go with Alli Luchey

Journal Prompts:

• How do your inner critic and inner protector show up in friendship?
• If you weren’t afraid to bother her, who would you call right now?

Quotes:

• You have agency to change the topic or walk away from a conversation
• It’s okay to be the one to go there in the friendship
• Your inner protector just wants to keep your younger self safe in a box so they don’t feel any pain
• The only way to have no-BS relationships is to be 100% who you are
• Relationships ebb and flow, and that’s okay
• Growing apart from friends isn’t a finite state
• The things that connect us are not our differences, it’s what the same
• The phone still works
• Pick up the phone and leave the inner critic at the door

Announcements:

• Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with a life coach? I’m now offering one-time coaching sessions called Coffee + Coaching. These sessions are perfect if you’re going around and around on a problem, can’t seem to get unstuck, and want help figuring it out. One client said, “this is the best 60 minutes I’ve spent on myself in the last year.” You can book your session at https://joanna-platt.com/coffee. There are only 8 of these sessions available each month and when they’re gone they’re gone so book your session now.
• Have a topic you want to hear covered in the future or questions for an upcoming episode, visit joanna-platt.com/hearttoheart to submit your question or topic.
  • May – Money
  • June – Sex

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Today, my friend Brit Kolo and I are talking about her recent sabbatical. Brit Kolo is the Creator of the Marketing Personality Type Framework at MarketingPersonalities.com, the Host of the Marketing Personalities Podcast, and an all-around wise, loving human being.

You’ll hear…

• limiting beliefs on what a sabbatical is
• why Brit took a month off
• how giving yourself permission to do something may inspire others to do the same
• Brit’s reasoning for using the term sabbatical
• how the sabbatical allowed her to enter back into normal life more intentionally with a better handle on her true self
• social media and the inner critic
• Brit’s criteria for who she follows on social media
• what her sabbatical was like
• Brit’s plan for a sabbatical in 2019

Meet Brit:

Brit Kolo is the Creator of the Marketing Personality Type Framework at MarketingPersonalities.com and the Host of the Marketing Personalities Podcast. Through her framework, designed to match you with your best marketing strategy based on your Myers-Briggs Personality Type, she’s here to shake up your approach to marketing and inspire you to grow your business in a feel-good way. Meet Brit and get ready to go deep, find your true self, and grow that business of yours WITHOUT feeling fake and salesy at MarketingPersonalities.com.

Instagram | Website

Links:

• Sunday Scaries (Love Always, Jo Episode 54)

Journal Prompts:

• Think of something you really want to do. Now, put that thing in this blank:  “What if I _______?”

Quotes:

• Your sabbatical doesn’t have to be a month – it could be a year or a few minutes – @marketingpersonalities
• Many great things start with a “what if” – @joanna_platt
• The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask @jameswedmore
• If you take time off, you may inspire others to take time off too – @marketingpersonalities
• When you give yourself permission to do something big you’re also giving others the permission to do the same – @joanna_platt
• You’re not less of a business owner or a professional if you have big things going on in your life – @joanna_platt
• Rest and time away matters more than showing up and faking it – @marketingpersonalities
• You can’t go at full speed all the time – @marketingpersonalities
• Allow for transitions to help you ease back in – @joanna_platt
• Rest is a practice, not something you arrive at – @marketingpersonalities
• Work moments of sabbatical into your daily life – @marketingpersonalities
• When you slow down and give yourself space you become a better human – @marketingpersonalities
• Give yourself the option to take time off – @marketingpersonalities

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Are you on the frequency of love or the frequency of wrong? That’s the central question and the main idea of this episode. In this episode, you’ll hear…

• what the frequencies of love and wrong are
• what it feels like to be on each of them
• how the inner critic comes into play here
• two personal stories from my life that illustrate the frequency of love and the frequency of wrong
• two ways to get back onto the frequency of love

Links:

• A Course in Miracles (course)
• Getting the Love You Want (book)

Journal Prompts:

• Are you on the frequency of love or the frequency of wrong?
• What is a creative way that I can meet this need for myself?
• What are your unmet needs?
• How are you going about getting your needs met?
• In what ways are your unmet needs already met right now?
• How are you wanting your unmet needs to be met?
• How likely is it that your needs will never be met?
• What other ways can you get your needs met?

Quotes:

• If you are on the frequency of wrong, there’s an underlying fear there
• The frequency of love is the normal, natural state for all of us
• On the dial of the frequency of wrong, there are two settings: needs met, needs not met
• It’s not right and wrong but aligned and not aligned
• Whatever frequency you’re on is how you’ll view the world
• When you’re on the frequency of love, you’ll realize that both of your needs can be met
• Genuine gratitude is the fastest way to shift your frequency
• Take a step back and ask yourself what do I need right now

Announcements:

• You can now book a one-time session with me. This is perfect if you’re stuck on the merry-go-round that is the frequency of wrong and want help getting off it. Email me: joanna@joanna-platt.com to learn more.

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