017: On boundaries and needs with Dr. Lauren Appio

Today, Dr. Lauren Appio and I are talking about boundaries, a topic that I personally have had to learn a lot about. In this episode we cover:

-what boundaries are

-benefits of boundaries and costs of not having boundaries

-risks of boundaries

-different types of human needs

-the 4 F’s: fight, flight, freeze, and new-to-me one, fawn

-how being over scheduled is a boundary issue

 

Selected links from this episode:

Dr. Lauren Appio’s website

Non-violent communication needs inventory

Non-violent communication feelings inventory

DBT Saying Yes, Saying No worksheet

Dr. Pete Walker – where Lauren learned the idea of fawn (In the episode Lauren credits Peter Levine for this idea, but it came from Pete Walker)