Each month we do a Q+A style episode called a Heart to Heart. This month is a Heart to Heart on sex. In this episode, we talk about staying celibate when dating, creating space for open and honest conversations about sex and having sex more often with your partner.
Questions:
- How have others broached the conversation about potentially staying celibate for an undetermined time in a romantic relationship?
- I feel very inexperienced when it comes to sex. How can you have an open and honest conversation when you are really starting to date?
- How can I get my partner to have more sex with me?
Links:
- Mating in Captivity (Book)
Journal Prompts:
- If you’re wanting to stay celibate – ask yourself why
- What do you like and not like (in bed)?
- How can having little experience in bed be a good thing for you?
- Who do you want to be sexually?
- How can you see sex as an adventure and not as a place where you’re lacking
- Is your sex life another place you feel you have to please and perform?
- How can you allow your sexual relationship to be completely should-less?
- Are you not having sex (physically) or are you just feeling like you’re not having sex?
- What do you need to feel to be open and available for sex?
Quotes:
- Start the conversation with yourself first
- You don’t always have to be DTF
- Be open and honest with your needs
- Believe you can attract a partner who will respect your boundaries, requests and desires
- Inexperienced doesn’t have to be bad – it’s like having a blank slate
- Honor where you and your partner are in each other’s sexual journey
- There are several factors that can stifle sex drive
- Be a safe place for your partner to show up in bed as they are
- Your sex drive can be different based on your cycle
- Focusing on what you’re not having is only going to reinforce it
- You can have vanity metrics in your sex life
- Be a person your partner wants to have sex with
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