adjusting to my name change

I started this post last summer but never got around to finishing it.

It was so hard for me to change my name when I got married. Though I knew I wanted to change my name, it was an interesting transition filled with emotions.

First, I cried at the Social Security Office.

Then I didn’t want to tell my dad that I didn’t even keep my maiden name as my middle name. Like I “dropped” it?  Ouch. That sounds harsh.

There was one point where I was meeting someone new for the first time and my maiden name just rolled right off my tongue and I had to correct myself and say “no, that’s actually not my name.”

And then going the other way, I was in Florida with LEM last January and the woman in Talbots asked me for my email address and I quickly blurted out joanna.platt@gmail.com. That’s NOT my email address, I don’t even know where that came from!

And then I was picking up a book at the library held under my last name and I went and started looking at N. 

But now, just a short year later, I’m totally Joanna Platt. I’m very comfortable with my new name. I own it.

I am Joanna Platt.

Wow, even typing that it seems like such a bold statement.  But that’s who I am.

It doesn’t sting anymore when I see my new name in my dad’s handwriting, it’s not uncomfortable when I look on Facebook and I don’t have the same last name as my little sisters. I confidently sign my name and introduce myself.

I think the transition comes from time and also from being more comfortable with myself, who I am, and who I’m becoming.

As I think about next steps in life, start a business, and dream about what the future holds, I am Joanna Platt.

Still the girl I’ve always been but new in many ways.

 

 

It's here!

Our wedding album is here!

Here’s what I saw when I opened the box:

Amanda wraps everything beautifully.

I had butterflies opening it. Partly because I was so excited and partly because I’ve had a very emotional reaction to wedding wrap-up activities.

I love our album.  I think it’s beautiful, the photos are beautiful and it’s nice to have all of our favorite photos in one place.

There were a few pictures where I thought “that’s what I chose?” but they probably were the best versions of that shot.

I’m excited to have our album complete.  I know it will be something I cherish forever. Thank you, Amanda Kraft!

I’m looking forward to sharing our album with our parents when we’re home next weekend.

Now I need to get some printed for our apartment…


Wedding dress laid to rest

Picking up my wedding dress from the cleaner was both exciting and emotional.  I’d been wanting to have it back but as we waited while the cleaner fetched my dress I noticed a sample dress in a display box and anxiety hit.  I didn’t want my dress to look like that one sitting on the shelf.  The woman placed the huge box on the counter and pulled my preserved dress out of the box.  Emotions swelled from my heart and tears welled in my eyes.  Oh no.  That’s my dress in a coffin,  I thought.  It’s stuffed and stiff and untouchable when all I want to do is cuddle up in my bed with it.  Hug it.  See it hanging and free flowing so I can lay in bed and admire it like I did the day after my wedding, day dreaming about that happy spring day.  I want it to have life in it. But instead it’s stuffed with dry white tissue paper and laid to rest behind this clear plastic cover.

For some reason it would feel a lot better if it were just in a plain old dry cleaner bag, hanging in the back of my closet.  I could touch it or see it as I get ready for a date or for a random Tuesday of work and say mmm as I think back fondly about how I felt when I wore the dress: so beautiful, joyful, full of love. So alive. I’m sure it would yellow just the same and after a while I probably wouldn’t even see it anymore. It would become another belonging in my closet that I pay no mind to. But for now, more than anything, I want it back.

The logical part of me thinks I should just keep in the closet at my Dad’s house since we don’t really have room for it here. The emotional part of me imagines myself sitting on the floor of our living room, arms spread wide and cheek resting on the big white cardboard box crying and crying.

The rational part of me knows that I won’t wear it again, that maybe I should sell it and use the money toward another dream: paying down my student debt. The romantic part of me sees this as the symbol of the day I dreamed of for so long.  A dream that has come and gone.