This week’s episode of Super Soul Sunday was an interview with Rob and Kristen Bell, husband and wife authors of The Zimzum of Love: A New Way of Understanding Marriage.

Here are some of my takeaways:

Your marriage is only as healthy as the least healthy one of you.

Marriage is a creative act. I never thought of it this way before but I just love that. It gives marriage energy, makes it seem like an opportunity, something that is anything but stagnant. 

If it’s working right, marriage is a little space of unity and light. It’s inspiring. And that’s good for the world.

The power of sexuality is less as a search for something and more an expression of something you’ve found.

When you get married you get a second set of eyes. So during an argument ask: “What am I not seeing?” and “Tell me why you see it that way.” (The clip about how to fight well.)

There were so many nuggets of wisdom in this episode (and I’ve saved it on my DVR) but these are the ones that stuck out to me the first time I watched.